what are you carrying
that was never yours to hold?
For people who've been putting everyone else first—
and the organizations who reward it.
You're successful by every external measure,
and life still feels hollow.
You're working through these feelings alone.
With journalling.
Meditation.
Self-care time.
Lovely activities, but nothing’s really shifting.
You've performed. Pushed through. Leaned in.
Told yourself you just need to work harder.
But you have nothing left to give.
You’re running on fumes.
When you’re at your brink, strength isn't about trying harder.
It's knowing what to drop.
Expectations that don't fit.
Roles you never chose.
Stories about who you should be
that have nothing to do with who you are.
It's time to set these down.
Not alone. Together.
the power of groups
Why do this work in a group instead of alone?
Because the combined energy of people releasing together creates a field that's bigger than any one of us.
Permission multiplies.
When you hear someone else share what they're carrying, you feel safer releasing your load. You may also find the group names thoughts and emotions you wouldn’t have found on your own.
Courage is contagious.
One person's willingness to feel opens the door for everyone else.
Energy amplifies.
What feels too heavy alone becomes moveable when held by the group.
You remember you're not alone.
In your isolation, it feels like you're the only one. Together, you see: we're all carrying something. And we can put it down together.
This is why I work exclusively with groups.
how organizations fit
The person who's been putting everyone else first?
They work for you.
They're your high performer.
Your "go-to" person.
The one who never says no.
And they're burning out.
They struggle to set boundaries for themselves.
How will they ever do it in a culture that doesn't intrinsically value the whole person?
Eventually, they'll leave—not because they want to, but because they can't see another way.
But leaving won't fix it if they carry the same beliefs to the next job.
Real transformation requires two things:
people unlearning that their worth comes from self-sacrifice,
AND organizations stopping the systems that reward it.
I create space to explore both—because culture change without inner work is just new policies no one uses, and inner work without culture change is people setting boundaries in systems that punish them for it.
When you address both, you don't just retain people—you become the organization everyone wants to work for.
Hey, I’m Wendy!
I know what it's like
to carry what isn't yours.
To be good at everything you try and still feel like you’re falling short.
To lean into perfection and show up day-after-day as a “model citizen”.
For 15 years, I expertly advised people and organizations on how to be what everyone wanted them to be so they could get what they want—money, respect, love, you name it.
It took all those years for me to realize…
We were solving the wrong problem.
The people sitting across from me didn't need to expertly fit in.
They needed permission to stop performing.
They needed space to remember who they were before they started carrying everyone else's expectations.
And organizations didn’t need people who fit the mold, they needed to change the mold to fit people.
So I left style coaching and started creating those spaces.
work with me
for people who’ve been carrying too much
You're exhausted from putting everyone else first.
You know something needs to change, but you don't know where to start.
You’re curious how it would feel to let things go.
Space to be.
for organizations
Your best people keep leaving.
Wellness programs aren't working.
You suspect the problem runs deeper.
Space to be honest about what's actually breaking—so you can build differently.
"I've brought Wendy into client sessions and have loved her partnership each time... I still get shivers thinking about the session—hundreds of coloured pencils spilled across the table, participants reaching for the hues that stirred something deep within them... Wendy led us somewhere unexpected, reshaping the way we engaged with our sense of self... Her facilitation style is deeply caring. She embodies what she teaches—she's intuitive, 'go with the flow', and unafraid of questions without answers."
Emily Empel
Founder, Advance Notice
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